Apathy is not one of my strong suits. I don’t like being in the company of people whose mission in life borders on “settling.” Becoming victim to this lackluster, preconditioned way of thinking saps our energy as it disengages us from wanting to be participants in a world of creative abundance. I cannot imagine living a perpetual “woe is me” state of mind.
I’m not speaking on a diagnosis of Depression, rather, a learned condition of behavior. Many people I’ve come into contact with over the years, sadly, are women who have given up on their ambitions, dreams and aspirations. They’ve decided they’re not good enough, smart enough, or competitive enough to follow through on their passion and create their vision. Instead, they’ve chosen to live vicariously through the accomplishments of sons, daughters and spouses. That’s all good- “What about you?”
Don’t take yourself out of the equation of living life to the fullest by settling. Those should’ve, would’ve, could’ve mantras, will not get you the pearl; only keep you in defeat. You won’t know what’s behind closed doors until you step up and open them. When we are constantly exhibiting, “woe is me” behaviors, we invite negativity to have a seat on the “docility” chair and create limitations to our potential for achieving great things.
Women must recognize their self worth. Stop over analyzing everything they’ve ever done that might have led to rejection or failure in the past. We need to embrace our woman power and know we are important contributors to society. Heed the words of Iyanla Vanzant when she encourages – “I am enough.”
As children, my siblings and I loved to go to looking for oyster shells along the banks of a river near our home. The riverbank is where the water is most shallow and where oysters could be pulled from their muddy hiding place. We were intrigued and motivated by stories adults told about the beautiful pearls inside of those shells and we’d pry them opened in hopes of retrieving the pearl. We never found a pearl, but, we never gave up trying…
Those oyster shells have become a symbol for my purpose. In releasing my pearl, I aim to make a difference.
I release my pearl to inspire seeds of encouragement, re-discovery, re-awakening and possibility. Empowered women are doing great things. We must continue to set goals, live our dreams, sow seeds, reap the harvest and reach back for the hands of our sisters.
If you lack the courage to live your dream and your concerns keep you in a state of inertia, consider:
“It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not ~ Hanoch McCarty.