We need to make sure that how we think about ourselves and what we allow others to say to us is congruent with our life practices. To continue to chew on a diet of negativity is akin to eating lard all day long, clogging not only your arteries but your digestive tract and other vital organs. Plus, it tastes absolutely gross.
Yet how many of us chew on diets of negative thoughts and words?
Yesterday I had a conversation with someone whose spouse is a constant stream of negativity. Conversations are critical and she is described as “bad” and “doing nothing right” and a “problem.” To make matters worse, she has chosen to isolate herself from friends and other means of support. Because other people know her struggles, she thinks she will receive the same negative feedback from
We all intellectually know allowing negative words, attitudes and thoughts into our lives is toxin to us mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically. But how many of us put up with things from others and ourselves that we should not? And how many of us are allowing these negative patterns to paralyze our ability to make good decisions and take action?
My friend had lost her footing. And in the process of feeling overwhelmed, she was giving up control and drowning in thoughts and tears of helplessness. She didn’t know what to do or how to act because she felt out of control. The horrible cycle keeps repeating. She believes negative input and her inability to change the situation; therefore she doesn’t do anything to change, reinforcing more negative thought patterns, helplessness and inactivity.
Take a few minutes to evaluate your thought patterns, relationships and beliefs. Do you believe that you are helpless? Do you think you have what it takes to overcome obstacles? Do you need help?
The woman I spoke with needed someone to advocate for her and give her sound advice, helping her to work through her helplessness to find her strength. She was unable to see things clearly and had huge decisions to make. When the time comes to make a big decision, it’s essential to avoid feeling overwhelmed, desperate or defeated.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help, especially from a professional. Whether it is a personal situation or a business situation, feelings of being overwhelmed and out of control with a sudden desire to “throw in the towel” and quit should all be triggers that it’s time to get some insight from other people.
In the multitude of counselors there is wisdom. This saying is from the book of Proverbs in the Bible and there is a lot of truth to it. We make better decisions when we think clearly and have received insight and advice from people who have been where we are now and have come through the trial with success. It is vital to receive counsel and input from others who have had similar seasons in their lives. Others can help us see loopholes in our thinking that we can’t on our own.
Professionals and friends with rich life experiences and wisdom can reinforce our strengths and abilities when we think the sky is falling and we are helpless to make a healthy move.
Don’t drown anymore. People who have been where you are in your current season will extend grace and will want to help.
You really are stronger than you think you think you are. Moving beyond the current trials and hard times will reinforce your strength and help you create a brighter future.